The rule is that you shouldn't date your ex-boyfriend's best friend! But what if you really, really like him and he likes you too! Dating your former boyfriend's best friend is really dependent on how you and your ex handle it!
Be very sure of your feelings. Take some time to sit down and examine exactly what it is you feel about him. If it's just a time pass affair with an attractive guy that you're searching for, find someone else.
Dating your ex's friend can generate too much anguish for everyone concerned. This will definitely cause a dent in their friendship. And it doesn't matter if your ex is seeing another woman; she isn't your best friend, is she?
Read between the lines
If you are still on good terms with your ex, let him know about your feelings! If he gives you his blessings, go for it. However, if your ex says something like, 'Yeah, go ahead, I don't care', they may actually be thinking, 'Why did you have to find my best friend to date in the whole wide world? What's wrong with you? Are you trying to make me jealous? Or has this been going on behind my back?'
No matter how much you try to convince him otherwise, suspicion will linger.
Moment of truth
Though your decision should not be dependent on your ex's approval, this new relationship will definitely put a strain in their relationship. And one way to judge if you should go ahead with this relationship, is to put yourself in your ex's shoes! If you feel the anguish is not worth the effort, forget about it!
Finally, if nothing works out, don't get too worked up. After all, there are many fish in the sea!
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